Prove it.

A few of my friends have this new thing they like to do, it's sort of a threat. They get on MySpace, and then they post a bulletin saying something to the effect of, "I'm tired of being treated like dirt, I need friends who care about me, I'm weeding out the crappy ones... If you're my friend, PROVE IT TO ME."

Now, maybe it's just me, but I find that a tad insulting. Why should I have to prove myself to you? Why shouldn't it be YOU that's proving yourself to me? They make it sound like I'm not a good enough friend for them to just BE MY FRIEND without me having to jump through hoops to provide reasons why I'm a good friend. It doesn't at ALL make me want to reply to them and be like " Oh [insert name here], I'm so sorry I haven't made it obvious that I value our friendship... Here, to prove that I deserve to be your friend, let me take you out to dinner!!" No. Instead it makes me want to reply and be like, "Forget it. If I haven't proven myself to you over the years by simply being the best friend I could possibly be, by being there for you when you need someone to talk to, or you needed to be comforted... Or that time you were blitzed out of your mind and needed a ride, or that time your 'boyfriend' kicked you out AGAIN... Then it doesn't look like you'll ever truly value what I have to offer as a friend. Maybe you DO need new friends, go ahead and weed me out."

I just can't stand it. People who want to just sit back and have the friends come to them on their knees all the time. Freaking FORGET it. I've been through more in the past two years than a lot of twenty year olds could really even imagine... And if there's one thing I've learned, it's that I value MYSELF far too much to WAIT AROUND for people. I don't chase. I've had the relationships that have ended, and I've chased after them, and prodded at them for answers, validation, clarification, closure.. Never works out. It only really works for me if I sever a relationship cleanly as soon as I know it's over.

Never would I post something public telling the 'friends' in my life that they needed to prove themselves to me. I know who my friends are, and they show their friendship to me every day by just simply BEING my friends. I love them to the death, and they know who they are.

That's my gripe for today I guess. Got a lot of work to accomplish today, better get started.

ktg.